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I have had sex partners who
ended up not being especially
good friends, and friends about
whom I didnt especially have
sexual feelings but really
liked their company. Somewhere
there has to at least one guy
who fills both those bills. So,
what does that mean? I grew
up on a farm, and never lost
the sense of amazement I had
as a kid when everything was a
mystery and worth thinking
about, and I could play under
trees or play with and talk to my
collie, or try to figure out
why cows didnt talk. Simple
things still take me by
surprise. I have a big capacity to
laugh and will look for
laughter as a way to try to find the
joy in life. I learned from
my cousins the kind of male
bonding that was to become
important as I learned I felt more
than just bonding for males. I
learned that you had to be
honest, you had to tell the
truth to each other, and that it
was important to keep your word
when you gave it. I went to
college and did well there,
went on to grad school, but
became disappointed with what I
thought would be the happiest
time of my training. I got a
master's degree, but went on to
work outside my area. So, I
learned to think on my feet,
and learned that there are lots
of ways to resolve matters.
It wasn't until graduate school
that I decided I no longer
had any choice except to be
honest about my sexual
orientation. I have had a couple of
partners, but because I didnt yet
feel comfortable with myself,
I didnt make comfortable
choices. I since have learned to
respect and like myself.
I
like movies, and different kinds
of music. I like the beach
but love the mountains. I like
to feel secure with someone,
to know that I can rely on them
to be supportive of me, and I
like to tell the truth in the
kindest way, but still to
tell the truth because I know the
consequences grow larger the
longer you wait to tell it. I
like to cook, I

Dont really know what to say
here. So Im going to leave
this up to questions in
person....lol.

I would like my soul mate to have a good sense of humor, to be able to look for the silver lining even when it isnt so obvious if it is likely to happen. I would like to hear him hum so himself now and then, because it would mean he has found some peace in his heart, because that is the sort of person I would like to spend time with. I would hope he is physically affectionate and playful in private, with little surprises now and then, if it is no more than a note tucked into a pocket or a message left on my phone at work telling me he misses me already. I would like for him to be a sensual lover, one who knows that making love is different from having sex, even when there are those times when passion can run so high that it is hard to tell the difference between the two. I would want my soul mate to have his own passion in life, something that I can grin at when he accomplishes whether it is big goal or a daily task done well. I want him to be loyal, loving, reliable, and most of all monogamous with me because he would respect me and love me enough that it would be the only choice for him to make. I like a man slightly larger than I am, so I can feel safe when I am around him. Not that I feel afraid, but it goes to the whole bit about wanting to feel that together we can take on the world. That he has a sense of us, in addition to a sense of himself and of me, and that he will discuss things where we are involved as a couple or partners before making a decision, just as I would tell him about something and ask him about what he thinks. Handsome would be nice, but that is in the eye of the beholder. I guess that is enough spelling out for now. For the rest, it is something to talk about over dinner and a glass of wine.