It’s a dating dilemma we all face at some time: You’re at that point in the relationship where a simple night nestled into a couch in front of a movie sounds better than dinner out.

So what do you watch? If she’s a huge Drew Barrymore fan and he’s more into Tarantino, it could be a very uncomfortable evening. So pick something that will be just as great for both of you. Not a chick flick, per se, but not a guy movie, either. Something that might even wet his eyes a bit! Here are 10 recommendations for that perfect DVD date:

10. “Say Anything” Perfect for couples who grew up in the 80s.

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Whether it’s the iconic “sold, bought or processed” scene or the moment with the boom box, chances are you remember certain parts of this movie like they actually happened to you. Such is the charm of a John Cusack movie – he has that kind of everyman appeal that most guys can identify with, and most women have dated someone like him at some point. This flick reflects on a period in life when big decisions are ahead and change is inevitable.

9. “Love Actually” Great for couples who’ve been through a lot.

“The thing about romance is people only get together right at the very end.”

On the surface this is just another chick flick, but once you’re in it, it’s much more about the human condition than 90% of romantic comedies, and there’s certainly something in it for everyone: the guy who loves a girl society deems unworthy, the everyday girl with great expectations, the jilted wife, the cheating husband, the widower trying to fill a mother role for his son, and even the 8-year-old boy who finds the first love of his life and steps up to the plate like a man. In short, it’s a very funny, poignant, well-written and acted drama with moments of romance that defy cynicism.

8. “The Fountain” Stimulating date-night film for intellectual couples.

“All these years, all these memories, there was you. You pull me through time.”

Alternately called “a love poem to Death” and “Zen and the art of transcendental gardening,” Darren Aronofsky’s third film is dense, intelligent, and a breathtaking work of art. If you can handle the plot that twists and turns over 1500 years (and yes, it all makes sense), this is an unforgettable story of finding a way to hold onto love for eternity. Without spoiling anything, it follows a man’s quest to save his dying wife and involves the crusade for the fountain of youth in South America, a scientists’ struggle to cure his wife’s cancer and an epic journey to a distant star to realize the answer to immortality. It’s a movie that will leave you talking for hours afterwards about your own lives, your own mortality and definitely about the power of love.

7. “Meet Joe Black” Awesome flick for more established couples.

“You never know, lightning could strike.”

OK, guys, don’t roll your eyes just yet. There really is something in here for you! This is the story of what happens when Death wants to know the meaning of life. It takes itself and its premise very seriously. Brad Pitt plays the Grim Reaper on holiday, vicariously enjoying the wealth and access of an aged Anthony Hopkins’ life … and daughter. Aside from the central love story there’s the passion of a father for his daughter and the profound need of a man to leave something meaningful behind him when he goes. It’s star-crossed lovers to the nth degree.

6. “Legends of the Fall” Watch this if you’re both into epic period pieces.

“It was those who loved him the most that died young. He was a rock they broke themselves against…”

It’s the story of the charisma, passion and torment of a man and how it affects (and destroys) those around him. The “Fall” in the title refers to the Biblical fall from innocence, and indeed punishment abounds for the lead character, Tristan (Brad Pitt – yes, once again). While this is equal parts war movie, western and family drama, it also contains very tragic stories about love unrequited, love stolen and love taken too early. It’s the quintessential guy movie that women love too.

5. “Solaris” Another great one for “thinking” couples.

“Am I alive or dead?”
“We don't have to think like that any more. We're together now. Everything we've done is forgiven. Everything.”

A love story set in space? Love knows no frontier. At its heart – and it’s just below the surface – it’s a film about the unbearable loss of loved ones and what desperate measures one will go to in order to have them back. It’s set in the distant future and examines the question: “Does the power of love strip us of our humanity or is it that which makes us most human?” This is not some cheesy, sentimental send-off, but really has something to say, and it’s held aloft by another great ensemble cast. He’ll stay for the spaceship, but the strength of the love story will rivet you both.

4. “There’s Something About Mary” Great for couples who love low-brow humor.

“When I was 16 years old, I fell in love.”

And the rest is history – a very painful and tortured history involving braces, a baseball, dental implants, hives, a fishhook in the mouth, Brett Favre, a guy named Woogie, a dead dog, one mean zipper and some … ahem … “hair gel.” One of the funniest movies of the 90s, the titular Mary is the kind of innocent whirlwind that attracts all sorts of losers, each outdoing the other in bizarre attempts to win her heart. Yet it’s the perennial nice guy, Ben Stiller, who ends up winning the day. It’s a goofball comedy with a heart of gold.

3. “Bull Durham” A home run for couples who love sports.

“I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days.”

Notorious for being the film that brought Tim Robbins and Susan Sarandon together in real life, it’s a great little flick about love and baseball that has all kinds of things going for it. From the early confidence of Kevin Costner to Robbins’ hilarious performance and Sarandon’s sage-like narration, it’s almost equal parts romance and baseball movie. But it’s the writing and acting that sets this one apart and makes it the perfect date DVD. It’s only as deep as a baseball game (which gets compared to everything from quantum physics to religion) but it’s that image of Tim Robbins pitching in a garter belt that will leave you smiling long after the 9th inning.

2. “Shakespeare in Love” Recommended for couples who love theatre.

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Perhaps the most literary romantic comedy of film history – to watch it is a brief lesson in Shakespeare himself, from references to his plays in props and situations, lines lifted straight from the page, historical references from the time of his life and the fact that the whole thing is delivered in iambic pentameter. Yet, as the Academy Award-winning story of Shakespeare struggling with writer’s block while writing Romeo and Juliet, it manages to be accessible to almost everyone, just as the Bard’s plays were in his day. It’s a story of love as well as a biting comedy that pokes fun at actors, writers, producers and even the audience itself. And there’s a bit with a dog. Completely endearing no matter what your taste.

1. “When Harry Met Sally” Especially great for couples who started out as friends.

“No man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive.”

The longevity of this movie is owed to many things: the undeniable charm of young Meg Ryan, the dry wit of young Billy Crystal, the direction of Rob Reiner, the endlessly quotable script and undoubtedly the “I’ll have what she’s having” scene. But while some may consider it the quintessential romantic comedy, it doesn’t play to formula. It spans several years and a large chunk of the character’s lives, so when they come to mature and learn from their mistakes, it feels more natural and therefore more poignant. Intercut with scenes of older couples telling true anecdotes of long-lasting love, it’s a warm, quirky movie that’s not overly sentimental. If you’ve never seen it before, you both will love it, and if you have, then pick it up and rediscover one of the very best of the genre. Unless, of course, your name is Sheldon.

So make plenty of popcorn and get started! The shared experience of a great flick can be a fun bond in a relationship. Happy watching!

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