But why is it so hard to find a woman that wants the same things I do? Why can’t I just say, “OK, I like you and I feel that special thing, so let’s go to bed.”

A: When people talk of true love, they often refer to those early stages of lust and intoxication as infatuation. It’s when the world, especially your partner, is seen through rose-colored glasses!

Make no mistake. There is a difference between sexual drives and lasting love.

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Anthropologist Helen Fisher from Rutgers University recently conducted brain imaging studies of individuals who were passionately in love vs. those who were not.

Her results suggested that romantic love is a physiological drive, an instinct as powerful as hunger. Then we tack on various emotions, depending on how we feel.

When things are going well, we feel elation, hope and other joyous feelings. And when things go poorly, we feel horrible sorrow instead. However, we always feel that intense craving, the urge, the instinct, the drive to win our beloved. Romantic love is truly akin to an addiction.

So think about this: Don’t overplay physical attraction at the expense of long-term prospects. Couples who do so are often fatally ensnared before they’ve had a proper chance to consider their suitability as companions.

With Internet dating, there is an opportunity to screen potential partners for long-term compatibility. Then, you can explore the level of chemistry among those prospects. You don’t have to trade good sex for a soul mate.

Remember, tools like the TRUE Compatibility Test will not tell you if you are going to fall in love with that particular person, rather it’ll give you direction on whether or not pursuing something is a good idea. Then after you’ve found someone who’s compatible, let physical intimacy naturally follow your search for lasting love. And TRUE's Sexploration test will help you find someone who is sexually compatible with you.

Q: Why are men afraid of intelligent, successful, quick-witted and adventurous women? How do I not scare these men off? Do I keep a lid on my accomplishments, education and experiences?

A: Overall, men are not afraid of women like you. Many men prefer women who are intelligent, ambitious, energetic and dynamic. Men who have control or self-esteem issues may be unsettled by accomplishments like yours, but men who are proud of who they are and how they got there would be thrilled to find someone like you.

Ah, but there is a caveat, men and women alike don’t find it attractive if a person comes across as being superior, especially aggressively superior. So as long as you are not bragging about yourself then be happy that you haven’t hooked up with someone yet.

Savvy ladies like you know that lasting love is something worth waiting for. Don’t settle for less than someone who will complement you and your outlook on life.

Don’t keep a lid on your past experiences and accomplishments, but be sure to be sensitive and pace how much you disclose as you progress in a relationship. Men, just like women, are turned off by someone who discloses too much too early. A woman like you comes across as a Pandora’s box to men with issues, but you will come across as an unfolding treasure to the right man.

Allow those quality prospects to explore your wealth of knowledge and life experiences rather than be bombarded – be an unfolding treasure!

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