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Q: What's the best way to screen someone I want to date?
At TRUE, we take our members’ safety seriously. We don’t want felons or marrieds on our website, period. If you are a criminal or married, DO NOT use our website. Consider this to be fair warning: Our Member Safety team vigorously pursues individuals who misrepresent themselves on our website. We report violators to appropriate federal, state and local authorities, including parole boards. We also actively pursue prosecution of these offenders in other ways. For example, we recently filed a civil lawsuit against a convicted felon and Florida registered sex offender for misrepresenting his felony status when attempting to access TRUE’s members. This felon was prevented from communicating with TRUE’s members due to TRUE’s proactive policy that requires criminal background screenings on its communicating members in the U. S. – the only one of its kind among major online dating sites. TRUE is the only online dating company that has pursued civil prosecution of an individual for misrepresenting himself online. TRUE’s first lawsuit was filed in November 2005 and was resolved by agreement, the terms of which required the sex offender to: (1) cancel his existing memberships and refrain from using TRUE.com and other companies in the online dating and relationship industry; (2) complete a community service obligation; and (3) pay damages to TRUE.
We can't guarantee that criminals can't get on our site, but we can guarantee that they'll be sorry they did. DISREGARD THIS WARNING AT YOUR PERIL.
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A: TRUE's exclusive process screens for U.S. felony convictions and requires members to affirm that they are not married. U. S. members on TRUE have to go through our criminal screening process before they email or chat with you. So finding dates through TRUE is the first step toward safer dating you should take.
Then:
- Ask questions as you're getting to know a person.
- Remember the answers and compare them to the profile of the other user.
- Ask the same question different ways to see if the answers are consistent.
- If they're not consistent, a red flag should go up.
You need to pay careful attention to answers and be cautious. Anytime you see inconsistency it should raise your level of awareness and your level of caution.
Trust your gut and not your heart. A lot of people are so eager to develop a relationship that they tend to throw caution to the wind and follow their heart and not their gut. Throwing caution to the wind is what you don't want to do. It's important to protect yourself while you're allowing yourself to meet people.
Q: I want to look good on my first date — what do I need to know as I'm considering what to wear?
A: Your clothes should send the right message for the kind of relationship you are trying to have. You don't want to give someone the wrong impression. If you want to take things slowly, dress conservatively, like you might for a job interview.
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